It’s easy to think coaching is a one-on-one conversation. Just me and my counterpart.
But in supervision, a fascinating question often emerges: Who else is in the room?
That question can open up powerful insights. Many coaches discover they’re subtly performing for someone who isn’t actually there—an old mentor, a past boss, a critical parent, or even a version of themselves they’re trying to prove something to.
I’ve noticed that when I’m trying to “do it right,” I’m often less present with what’s actually happening. I’m responding to someone else’s expectations instead of tuning fully into what’s needed now.
In supervision, we bring these voices into the light. We ask: Where do these influences come from? What impact are they having? And who do I want to centre in my coaching conversations?
This awareness can free us up. It helps us bring more presence, more choice, and more authenticity to the coaching space.
Practical Tip: After a session, take two minutes to journal the question: Who else was in the room with me today? You might be surprised what you notice.
If you want to explore these ideas in a supportive space, I offer both individual and group supervision. Reach out to learn more.